One of my half term jobs resulted in my being surrounded, for most of a day, by the England Junior Men’s Volleyball Team (trust me, this sounds a lot more enjoyable than it actually was). These guys are loud and confident – they have no secrets; they don’t appear to know how to whisper, or how to speak quietly.
I overheard a conversation that has stayed with me all week.
The England squad usually play for country, county and club. One of the team was speaking about his home club
‘We have 3 England players and another two who were invited to trial (for England) but didn’t because they were too frightened (of not being selected). They are really good.’
I feel sad and puzzled in equal measure. What did they have to lose? If their worst fears had been realised, they would be exactly where they are now (and presumably they like it). If not, they too would be spending a sunny Saturday, sporting their Volleyball England kit or traveling the world playing sport at an international level.
My post Oscars newsfeeds have been full of motivational words from Lady Gaga’s acceptance speech
“If you are at home and you are sitting on your couch and you are watching this right now, all I have to say is that this is hard work. I’ve worked hard for a long time and it’s not about winning. What it’s about is not giving up.”
“If you have a dream, fight for it. There’s a discipline for passion, it’s not about how many times you are rejected or you fall down or you’re beaten up, it’s about how many times you stand up and are brave and you keep on going,”
Far be it from to disagree with an Oscar winner…..but…….maybe it’s not about carrying on, maybe, the hard part is getting started. It is scary to start something new but getting started is the only way to get it done.
I often speak about the crises of confidence experienced as I was writing our accredited oncology touch therapy courses.
My self-talk went something like this
‘This is ridiculous, spas and therapists should be able to welcome cancer patients’
‘OMG – massaging a cancer patient? What am I thinking? I am going to kill someone’
‘it will be ok, they do it in hospitals’ (massage not murder) and, you know what? It was ok, no massage-related demise reported.
Sending success, no matter what your measure,